I'm not really a pie person. I'll skip the meringues, the fruit pies, the cream pies. Just not my thing...unless it's Key Lime pie. Then I'm all in.
But, pie is great visual for how many of us view and approach life.
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We, myself included, tend to assume there is a limited amount of any one thing. This applies to tangible things like items on sale at a store, number of students looking for yoga classes, or campsites at a campground. And sometimes this true. There might only be a limited number of campsites, which is why you have to reserve them 6 months in advance here in Colorado!
Perhaps because we are bombarded by flash sales, "doors are closing" promos, limited-time offers...Perhaps because we often see the "happy life" posts on social media rather than the "not-so-happy", it causes us to take this pie mentality and apply it to intangible things as well.
It is all too easy to start to see things like rights, ability, love, money, fertility, or even happiness as pie.
Some of us get a bigger portion than others, and if you get a sliver, or none at all, well too bad, that's all there is.
But that's not how it works.
There isn't a finite amount of ability in the world that gets doled out to the lucky few. So much of what we consider "natural ability" can be attributed to practice, pure and simple. Now, I can you hear you saying, "but, some people are just going to be faster, stronger, smarter, thinner, fill in the blank, because of genetics".
Maybe. So, what?
That doesn't mean you CAN'T try, do, or even get pretty darn good at something by putting in the time, failing, seeking new methods, trying again, failing a little more, and getting better every step of the way. You might never run a 400-meter in the Olympics. But you might run your fastest 400-meter race ever. Or you might just enjoy running because it feels good. Or you might pick something else because it works better for you body.
There isn't a finite amount of love in the world that is blessed upon the chosen ones. All too often our vision or interpretation of love comes with an unwritten manual in our minds of what it should look like, feel like, be like. We don't tend to share this manual, or even be aware we have one most of the time, so when someone does show up in a loving way that doesn't match our expectation, we might totally dismiss it, or fail to recognize it, as love. And, if we aren't loving to ourselves, we probably push any external love away anyway, determined that we don't deserve it.
There isn't a finite amount of money in the world. This might be a hard one to swallow, but it's true. Money is way more fluid than we understand it to be. Most of us think of money as something we get for putting time in at a job. We get what we get and don't throw a fit. But, when is last time you thought about asking for a raise and actually did it? Or looked for a better paying job and really went for it? Or took a course to level up your own skill set? Or even thought about HOW you think about money and how that affects how you earn it, save it, or spend it? And how you think about money determines how much there is. According to businessinsider. com, in 2017 if you considered only currency in circulation globally, there was about $5 trillion. If you widened that to include bank accounts, money market accounts, digital money, it was $80 trillion. That was two years ago. I can imagine it was a lot less in 1919, and that it's already changed by 2019.
There isn't a finite amount of happiness in the world. I know at times it feels like that. I've felt that, too. It's really easy to look at social media accounts and assume that happiness is bestowed on certain people, but not you. That's a bit deceiving. Most of us, I'm going to guess 99.99%, experience life as 50 / 50. Half of the time life is pretty good. We're happy. The other half we struggle, we suffer. We often think we're alone in that, which also contributes to pie perspective. But we're not. Happiness isn't pie. You don't get your slice and that's it.
It's more about how you chose to view the world.
Our perspective and beliefs, whether we're pie people or not, is what determines how we interpret the world. From a pie perspective, there is a limited amount. If someone else has it, that means you don't, won't, or can't, as least not in the same measure they do. From this vantage point, life can seem really unfair. It can leave you depressed and strip your motivation. Life can also seem really cutthroat because everyone needs to fight to keep what they've got or to prevent someone else from enjoying it.
The thing is, this is just a perspective. It's just perception. It's like you're wearing these glass all the time and they make everything look like pie.
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This lens on the world is really your brain constantly filtering and editing what you see, but then telling you that it’s just objectively recording what happens. Your brain constantly seeks evidence for the stories you already believe about what kind of person you are, how much money or success is available in the world, the haves and the have-nots, how people treat you, whether you’re lovable or capable of big things. When you have your pie glasses on, you only see evidence to confirm what you already think. You will literally not see evidence that contradicts it.
What about Pinkie Pie glasses instead?
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Kind of silly, absolutely. Bear with me.
If you don't have kids, or you're not a bronie or pegasister (these are actually real things, no lie. Go check out the google) then you might not know Pinkie Pie. She is a character in the My Little Ponies series, and it's kind of perfect that she's got rose colored glasses in this image.
Pinkie Pie's perspective is any but pie. She's very outgoing, cheerful and energetic. She plays a lot instruments and frequently sings a lot of her own songs. A lot of the other ponies, and even her friends, do not always take her seriously. Most of the time they don't really understand her either. Pinkie Pie is not scared of danger. She doesn't really take no for answer. She'll instead try a different method. Pinkie believes in just accepting life as it comes and not questioning its wonders. She chooses to be ok with not always understanding everything, with failing and trying again, and the fact the every pony has it's own special talents. There is no need to compete. There is enough for everyone.
When you're really honest with yourself, when you examine your thoughts, notice the things you say...
which kind of glasses do you put on every day?
I actually wear glasses to see. Not that my vision is horrible, but it's blurry enough in the distance that glasses are necessary. You know the nice thing about glasses? You can take them off. You try on new frames. You can change your style. Heck, you can even wear contacts.
Point being, you can do that with the lens through which you see the world, too. You're not stuck with pie glasses for your whole life. Maybe you want to try out Pinkie Pie glasses. Maybe rose-colored glasses would be good for you for a bit. Trying out a new perspective doesn't mean you're hypocritical or becoming lost to the dark side. It means you're honestly thinking about your life, how it is, and how you want it to be. It means you're open to being mindful about what keeps your mind full. It means you're intentionally choosing how you want to show up in the world.
I'm curious, what kind of glasses do you put on each day?
Til next time,
I'm Tonia, a Midwesterner transplanted to Colorado. I'm a mom of two lovely littles, a yoga instructor, DIY-er, teacher, stay at home mom, and a doTERRA Wellness Advocate. I blog about a little bit of all of these and everything in between!
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